Comments on: Transgender Artist : Gender Identity Disorder Truth

By: joy rosiello

joy rosiello — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 03:14:36 +0000

A Transgender poem for the gender impared while deep within my darkend hell i see the evening clouds do swell but nare a drop shall fall on me for if it did id soon be free for swift as wings apoun a dove they pass me ore and shead not thier love.

By: chris

chris — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:04:24 +0000

Thanks for the lulu.com advice. And thank you for writing such a clear appraisal of gender identity disorder for people to read.

By: chris

chris — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:43:28 +0000

I have actually written a semi-fictional book on how I conquered this condition in my life. Any ideas on how to get it published, most agents and publishers want to run a mile from the topic! Chris (same as the comment above)

Yes, I would recommend taking a look at lulu.com for a no-cost self publishing option. If you have a story that is truly interesting, you can probably sell some books. --cp

By: chris

chris — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 22:38:13 +0000

This was amazing for me to read. I am gender-disorientated. I was told by a psychiatrist in my country that my future, unless I opted for radical surgery,was one of either using drugs or drink to overcome the pain of feeling societally rejected or the common out of suicide. I was astonished by his lack of empathy with this prognosis, I ignored his suggestion of surgery and I have found an alternative to this condition for myself with the help of some amazingly accepting individuals. The medical world wants us to conform as much as society does - if we’re not happy being male then they’ll make us female or visa versa. I think we need to take a fresh look at who we are and find self-acceptance within our own unique lives.
I enjoyed reading your site.
Thank you
another Chris (but the opposite to you, male in the female body)

By: Kristina

Kristina — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 07:11:21 +0000

chris,

i’m with this and i appreciate all of your info on the subject. i am still faking it as a man and hate it. i’ve confided in only 4 people and they appeared to accept it. the name i sign off with was chosen with help from one of those people. i haven’t changed anything physical yet because i don’t know how to cover the medical costs. it feels wonderful to have come out finally. i too thought i was gay at a young age. i actually refer to myself now as a lesbian. when i look at women it is with envy. too much to say now……..i could write a book. but,i would appreciate reply to my email.

thanks again, Kristina

By: Andrea

Andrea — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 01:56:14 +0000

Chris,
I agree and believe with everything you say. From the time my second son was able to show his preference for toys and activities, he made choices that most would say were more appropriate for a girl. When he was about 5 yrs old, he told me he was meant to be born a girl. This was over 35 years ago, and I don’t believe I had even heard of the term transgender yet.

We did consult with school psychologists at various times. At first because we were confused and concerned about behavior and choices he was making that were so very different than his older brother. Later, the school psychologist got involved because my son’s first grade teacher thought his behavior was inappropriate. He was a boy acting like a girl.

The psychologist spent the day with my son, and at the end of it all, he laid the ‘blame’ solely at our feet. My husband was not ‘present’ enough in our son’s life. I was spending too much time with him so he was identifying with me instead of his father. We were so terribly wrong to allow him to play with his preferences, which were more girl oriented toys and activities. I’ll never forget the day he got a Wonder Woman doll for his birthday. He was in heaven. This soon led to Barbie’s and what he wasn’t given as gifts, he merely created, such as making his own Barbie house complete with furniture, wallpaper, etc.

We were awful parents for allowing him to dress up as Wonder Woman for Halloween. It was that or he would not participate in Halloween activities.

He taught himself how to knit and crochet. He loved to bake.

The trucks and ‘boy’ toys he received for birthdays and Xmas were politely received and thanked for, and when the gift giver was gone, he simply turned the toy over to one of his brothers.

My thought was that he was gay, even when he was just a young boy. I never judged him and wholly accepted him the way he was. But I was the only one.

He was brilliant, with an IQ above genius. He took his first SAT test when he was in 5th grade. I remember when he was about 15 he told me he knew he could grow up to be anything he wanted, but he didn’t know what he wanted as the choices were just too many.

I wonder now if what he was really wondering was how was he going to grow up to be the woman he knew he was meant to be.

There were many problems in our family that affected our boys and when this particular son attempted suicide at age 16, I thought it was in response to the disfunction around him. At age 18 he succeeded in taking his life. Again, I attributed it to the chaos and crises that were in our lives.

It would take many years before a smart therapist delved deeper and made me see that my son suffered from gender dysphoria and that he must have endured much pain and heartache for the majority of his life.

I think it mattered not that he knew I loved and accepted him for who HE was, but that the entire rest of the world felt he was a freak, or sick or unworthy. For years I have lived with guilt because I was not able to help him deal with all that besieged him. I am only now seeing that he probably felt it was him against the entire world. His pain must have been so acute.

I have to believe that there is a heaven where he is exactly everything he was meant to be, with complete acceptance and love for his beautiful spirit.

By: Lyndsay

Lyndsay — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 18:46:42 +0000

This is a very interesting article and I applaud you for being so open.

As a believer, it breaks my heart to see Christians (as you put it) create hell on earth for people in the name of God’s love.

Homosexuals and transgendered people are just as worthy of God’s love as anyone else.

Anyone who is at least open enough to study the topics will find the truth… what worries me are the people who aren’t willing to learn… THOSE are the people I’m afraid of.

Thank you for your kind comments. I have written these things in the hope that perhaps some people will turn away from the message of the Pharisees and back to the message of Jesus. If they did, I could go back to church and we would all be happier. – Pagani

By: Gender Identity Disorder, A Personal Transgender Story

Gender Identity Disorder, A Personal Transgender Story — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 02:37:25 +0000

[…] subject matter and images and is not intended for general audiences. If you haven’t read my introduction to Gender Identity Disorder then do so before you continue, because I will mainly be talking about that subject. I will talk […]

By: Verna D'Alto

Verna D'Alto — Sun, 28 Jan 2007 23:18:03 +0000

Chris,
I agree with all of your comments, especially “let’s try to save the next generation. I have done the flag waving, getting gassed in Washington and sang my songs for freedom before any one who who listen to me. My younger friends want me to stand on the corner of the small town of Margaretville with Peace signs. I’ve been there, done that and maybe I should stand on the corner anyway, even without a sign. There is so much that needs to be changed, I decided that even if I do one thing, it will be better than nothing. But then again….I have been an outcast since I was 5, gotten a lot of beatings by my father. Now, I am 73, I don’t give a shit what people think of me and my weird art or weird self. There is such much peace in knowing that I don’t have to care about my opinions.
My website is still under construction. Do you mind if I quote some of your words (with credit of course). Let me know. If not, I will still look upon your words and work as genius. Thank you for being real and an inspiration.
Love, Verna

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