Gender transition is very difficult for most people and sometimes it is the only thing that will help a person survive. But also for others, it is better if one can find another way to deal with their life situation. It is unfortunate that there isn’t more support for alternative treatment. I’m not saying that people should be steered away from transition, only that they should have options – because it is always much more difficult in the long term than most people realize. So if you can find a way to live without it, you are usually better off. On the other hand, for the naturally feminine-looking among us, transition may be the very best option. It is a very personal thing.

I live in Mexico City and there are not many options for therapy here. Two gender therapist control the scene and they are all for transition as you might guess. Being desperate, lonely and without proper guidance, one is easily led into transitioning. Now I am working on leaving hormones, after some years of on and off (7 in total) and three of continuous intake. You see, I am 50 years old, 6″ tall, and weight 210 pounds, my feet size are a mere 11 1/2 US size. I have a teen age kid, which loves me much enough as to stay by me no matter what I do as long as I am happy. I have a loving wife which has clearly stated that she will leave me once I declare that I am going for the whole process. Of course I can not blame her for that. I am, so far, a successful high ranking official of a Mexican 500 company. Half of my family would desert me if I transitioned and most of my friends would opt to either seeing me in clandestinity or not seeing me at all. I may keep a couple if at all. So, I am doing my best to find alternatives in order to avoid transition. And as you verily declare, they are very scarce and hard to find. So your site comes as a great relief, as an oasis in a sea of bias and misinformation. The medical apparatus has developed a whole industry around us, so they will not look for alternatives for the next few decades. I am afraid that we mean money and prestige for the professionals involved, not an opportunity for the advancing of knowledge and/or exerting compassion.
I am sending your link to selected friends that I think may benefit from reading it. Your perspective, insight and information is much needed wherever people are receiving the standard medical treatment for GID. I do beleive that your compassionate effort may save many lives.
If you are not overwhelmed by desperate persons seeking your friendship, understanding, guidance, company,and communication, I would very much like to keep in touch via mail.
Once again, thank you very much for your honesty and generosity in sharing with us your experience, knowledge, and love.
Receive an affectionate hug of gratitude,

Avril

PS. I do apologise for my defective command of English

I have been a tomboy all my life. I basically feel asexual but joke about being a
male trapped in a females’ body that is gay — I’m straight. Anyhow, you are a
very atractive woman. Try not to focus on your size because you are a beautiful
human being. I have gone from 135# to 240# when pregnant and am slowly working
down to a healthy weight. I know how it messes with your head. Society sends us these messages on weight. Your diversity in Tillamook county is appreciated by more
people than you know. One of my neighbors in Cape Meares has a transgender son
who is now their daughter. They just want her to be happy and healthy. Please take
care of yourself and good luck with your journey.